Stressed Over Parenting? You Aren’t Alone.

Being a parent is one of the biggest joys you can have in this world. But that doesn’t make it easy. In fact, while being a parent can be ultimately rewarding – it can also be extremely stressful.

You are far more than a parent. You are your own person, with your own needs and wants. With your own goals and aspirations that you want to accomplish. Learning to balance all of this, plus life, with the needs of your children can be quite rough.

Despite all of the joy that comes with parenting, it is quite normal to feel stressed. Not only with balancing everything, but raising the best children you can.

If you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed with parenting, don’t worry, you aren’t alone.

Why Are Parents So Stressed?

Parenting In A Scary World

We want to protect our children from the horrors of this world. From the heartbreak and turmoil that come with it. To shield them for as long as we can. But lately, it seems as if this is impossible.

From mass shootings, a pandemic, and world events, a lot of parents are feeling overwhelmed. Trying to balance wanting to protect our children from as much as possible. While simultaneously not wanting to to helicopter parent too much.

Especially as kids get older and become more independent, it can feel very overwhelming.

Self-Doubt Comes With The Package

From the time we realize that we want to be parents, we think about how we will do it. We think of all the ways that we will be the best parent to our future children. All the things we will do with them and teach them.

But truthfully, sometimes the vision we have in our head doesn’t match with what we dreamed up. Because while we have the best intentions, life gets in the way. We doubt whether or not we are giving the children the best opportunities they can. Or if someday our children will resent us for the things we couldn’t do or didn’t do enough.

When we are bombarded with constant social media images of a seemingly perfect family life, we doubt our own. “Why can’t I be more like her as a Mom?” “Why do I seem to fail in comparison as a Dad?” “Can’t we be like that, too?”

Social media, however, creates an illusion of this perfect life. Of well behaved children who never talk back. Parents who smile happily at every event or sports game. Who run their children around town, never complaining.

But very rarely, is this the actual case.

How To Deal With Parenting Stress

These are only just a few of the reasons why parents are overwhelmed today. There are so many other factors that play into the parenting stress. From little personalities that make us want to tear our hair out at times. All the way to indifferent or at times careless behavior.

But the thing to remember about this is that they are just children. They are not only growing into the person they will someday become, but trying to figure the world out too. As adults, it’s sometimes hard to remember that these are people too and not just our children. They get scared and overwhelmed, too. And, they don’t know how to emotionally regulate themselves. Sometimes, neither do we.

If you are dealing with the stress of being a parent, know that there is nothing wrong with you. It is more surprising to hear of parents who aren’t stressed out or doubting themselves. Luckily, there are ways to cope with the stress of being a parent.

Remember to breathe. You are doing the best that you can in the ways that you know how. You won’t be perfect at it, that’s not the point of being a parent. And chances are, you are likely doubting yourself and your skills as a parent more than is needed.

That’s why parenting therapy is so important. It can help you learn how to manage your own emotions and stress levels so that you don’t doubt yourself. And to help your children learn to grow up into the best people that they can someday be. Reach out to the office so you can learn how we can help.