McCullough Family Therapy

Premarital Counseling

Do You Want To Have All The Bases Covered Before You Tie The Knot?

Are you worried about getting your marriage off on the wrong foot? Have new stressors come to the surface and now you’re unsure if you’re making the right decision? Is your relationship going well and do you want the skills to keep it going well many years into the future?

Getting engaged is exciting, but it’s also stressful. The thought of spending the rest of your life with someone can be daunting. Although you and your fiancé are madly in love with each other, part of you wonders: What if we’re not meant to be? Maybe you’re having more fights and you’re worried that this trend will continue. Perhaps one of you comes from a family that’s eager to see you get married, and the other has a family that wants you to wait longer.

We provide premarital counseling to help partners achieve a shared vision for their lives together

After Getting Engaged, More Disagreements May Arise In Your Relationship

As you and your significant other consider your future together, new questions may come to the surface. Do you want kids? How will you celebrate holidays? Will you have individual or shared bank accounts? What are your expectations for sex? If you disagree on these topics, you may wonder just how well you’ll do living together long-term.

Deep down, you probably wish you could wave a magic wand and know for sure if your fiancé is right for you. Premarital counseling is not a magic wand, but it is a chance to work through difficult questions and fix any relationship issues before they become problems.

Many Couples Know What They Don’t Want Out Of Marriage, But Few Know What They Do

Lots of people get married without ever considering the type of life that they’re co-creating together. They may have taken a look at their parents and thought, “I don’t know what I should do, but I definitely don’t want to do what they did!” It’s all too easy to know what you don’t want your marriage to look like. The tricky part is figuring out what you do want it to look like.

If you and your partner came from very different backgrounds, you may want to sit down with them and talk about your marital expectations. Were both parents expected to maintain careers? Did you vacation for fun or just to see family? Was daycare an expected part of parenting? As mundane as these questions may seem, sorting them out is crucial for any marriage.

The Best Time To Seek Help Is When Your Relationship Is Going Well

Many couples never even consider premarital counseling. After all, when you’re madly in love and everything’s going great, what need is there to seek help? Believe it or not, this is the perfect time to get help. When you are happy with each other, it’s much easier to shift habits and behaviors. It’s harder to do so after years and years of frustration and resentment have built up. After all, your relationship doesn’t have to be in crisis for you to seek premarital therapy. Whether your relationship is all hearts and roses or whether it’s a challenge just to have a peaceful conversation, it’s always a good idea to get support.

Premarital Counseling Can Help You And Your Fiancé Achieve A Shared Vision For Your Lives Together

It’s so easy to get swept up in the excitement of planning the wedding and getting married. Finding time to sit down with your fiancé and talk about the hard questions can be difficult. That’s what premarital counseling is for. This is a time to talk about your hopes, dreams, worries and expectations for the future.

Therapy isn’t just a chance to ask logistical questions like figuring out how many kids you want and how you’ll handle finances. It’s also a chance to dive deeper and ask: What does it mean for you to be a parent? What does healthy communication look like? What qualities are most important to you in a spouse? We will answer these questions and come up with skills for navigating these areas so that they don’t cause problems further down the road.

Athena McCullough

OWNER | CLINICAL DIRECTOR
MA, LPC, LMFT

about us

PREMARITAL COUNSELING IN COLORADO

Why work with
McCullough Family Therapy?

This is your space to be you.

When you feel safe, supported, and heard – you’re going to feel comfortable sharing the experiences, history, and situations that brought you to our door.

Connection with your therapist leads to an openness that allows us to get clear on why your relationships follow a pattern of behavior that doesn’t give you what you need.

In creating a safe space for you to explore your thoughts without fear of judgment, we can open the door to real change.

We provide therapy that is:

Collaborative

Our commitment is to guide you ​toward the transformation you ​desire. To ensure you receive the ​best possible care, our clinicians ​work together, combining unique ​insights and expertise.

Safe

Wherever you are on your journey, you can feel confident that you are in a safe, judgment-free space. Our team is here to help you heal, grow, and get the support you need.

Experienced

Our experienced clinicians tailor their approach to you, considering your needs, goals, and personality, using the modalities that best fit your situation.

What To Expect In Sessions

How Our Premarital Counseling Works

Consultation and Assessment

You and your fiancé will meet with your therapist for a consultation to make sure they’re a good fit for you. Before your first session, both of you will fill out an online assessment that will act as a roadmap for the next several weeks of counseling.

The Relationship Phase

The first session will be a meeting with both of you together; after that, you’ll each have an individual session to make sure both of you are getting what you want out of this process. From there, you will both resume meeting with your counselor together.

We Help You Move Forward

Our goal is to help you and your significant other identify areas of disagreement and talk through each person’s thoughts on them. We’ll help you come away with a deeper understanding of each other’s needs and a wider array of skills for working through conflict. You can’t know exactly where the bumps in the road will be, but you can learn strategies to prepare for them when they arise.

Questions About Premarital Counseling

STILL HAVE QUESTIONS?

Many couples wait until things get really bad to pursue therapy. By that point, there is often a lot more damage to work through and relationship issues are not easily mended. This is why it’s good to be proactive. Going to counseling before marriage can help you anticipate future disagreements and potential pitfalls, allowing you to be prepared for whatever comes your way. And while we can’t make your fiancé attend therapy, we would be more than happy to talk to them about their reservations. We always offer free consultations to make sure everyone feels comfortable with the process.

We are not here to make major life decisions for you. Getting married is 100-percent your choice. Our goal is to help you assess the current state of your relationship and set you up for success.

Spiritual leaders can certainly help and many are trained in the Prepare/Enrich approach; however, they usually aren’t trained in working through all of the other issues that might come up. As therapists, we have specific training that helps us catch issues that get in the way of healthy relationships. We don’t just go through the basic premarital questions—we also look at trauma responses, attachment styles, family structures, and trouble with boundaries.

One of the main focuses of premarital counseling is attachment issues. Specifically, this means looking at what attachment needs you and your partner have and how they differ from each other. For instance, if one of you experienced neglect or betrayal in the past, that could affect your ability to trust the other person and feel stable in a relationship.

Additionally, our practice draws from an approach called Prepare/Enrich. This approach is designed for engaged couples and seeks to identify areas of strength and areas of growth in your relationship. The goal is to have all the bases covered in terms of communication and conflict-resolution before you tie the knot.

Pre-marriage counseling cannot guarantee that there will be no issues for you and your fiancé down the road. But what it can do is help you get your marriage started off on the right foot. Our hope is that by working together, we can help you and your partner achieve a shared vision and purpose in your life together.

STILL HAVE QUESTIONS?

How To Get Started

Start with McCullough Family Therapy by booking a free consultation. You can use the button below to book directly online. If you prefer, you can call us or submit an inquiry via our contact form.

We offer in-person therapy sessions in Littleton. Telehealth therapy is available across Colorado.

Premarital Counseling IN COLORADO

McCullough Family Therapy