4 Tips On How To Communicate With Your Partner

Everyone has probably heard this at some point in their life – communication is critical for a healthy relationship. However, communicating with your partner is not always the easiest undertaking. After all, though you are in a relationship, you each of your own daily stressors that can affect your own well-being. And with so much going on in life, it can be challenging to not let external factors come into your relationship.

While most people understand that communication is important, the truth is, a lot of people don’t exactly know how to do this effectively. If you know the saying, “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks,” then you might believe you can’t learn anything new. Fortunately, when it comes to communication, you can. Here are four tips on how you can effectively communicate with your partner. Not only to improve your own mental stability but for the health of your relationship.

4 Tips On How To Talk To Your Partner

1. Think Before You Speak

You’re in the middle of a heated argument with your partner. Things are tense and you are both upset. It’s human nature to just blurt out whatever you are feeling in the moment. But, sometimes, the words that come out are not what you intended. And unintentionally, you hurt your partner even more with what you said. Or, you make an already tense argument even worse.

But, this is just a normal response. In the heat of the moment, we don’t always think about what we are about to say before we say it.

So when you find yourself in a moment like this, stop and think. It might take practice and it won’t be perfect. But, trying to express what you are feeling, without hurting your partner, is definitely going to help the relationship in the long term.

2. Understand Their Point Of View

One of the things that trips couples up is trying to understand a different perspective. We aren’t perfect and sometimes, we think that how we are feeling or thinking about a situation is the right view point. And, maybe, sometimes it is. But, that doesn’t mean you can’t take a step back and think about it from their viewpoint.

When you try to see things how your partner is seeing them, you are actually helping a situation become better. Because no matter who is right in a situation or argument, it doesn’t really matter. What does matter is that you both know that the other is trying to understand. That each of you is trying to make each other feel seen and heard.

When you have this understanding, your communication flow will be much stronger.

3. Walk Away

When things are getting heated or too tense, it’s natural to want to keep at it. To keep trying to hash things out. But sometimes, this isn’t the best solution.

When communication isn’t really working out or you can’t see eye to eye, it’s sometimes better to just walk away. To say, “I can’t do this anymore. Let’s agree to drop out and come back to this conversation when we are both settled down and not as angry.”

Then, when you have both had a chance to settle down, come back to the conversation. You may find that it’s easier to talk things over when you have just walked away from it.

4. Work With A Couples Therapist

It’s hard to admit that things in your relationship aren’t exactly how you want them to be. And it can be even more challenging to know that your flow of communication isn’t quite working out.

However, that doesn’t mean that things can’t change. Working with a couples therapist can help you learn how to communicate more openly and honestly with each other. In ways that won’t hurt or worsen a situation.

Let’s connect soon to see how couples counseling can help you communicate better with your partner.